Category Archives: People in Culture

Inclusionism: The Only Viable Diversity Initiative!

Inclusionism [not to be confused with the Christian concept of “universal reconciliation”], is a paradigm of thought, which recognizes that major societal conflicts, imbalances and injustices are not situations that can be resolved by catering just to the “majority”; all ethnic perspectives have to be considered to solve societal problems. Inclusionism, as an academic, sociological theory focuses only on ethnic diversity. In this article however, the scope is broadened beyond ethnic groups to include all “socially labeled” groups and communities in modern society. In this context,  inclusionism acknowledges that societal injustices may affect different people unequally, based on race, age, culture, gender, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, education level, and other factors. However, even though the effects of social injustice are unequally dealt out to different segments of society, they are nonetheless felt by all segments of society. Continue reading Inclusionism: The Only Viable Diversity Initiative!

Of Love and Marriage (But no Horse Carriage)

In 1955, Frank Sinatra taught the American people and a broader international audience the idea that love and marriage cannot be thought of separately.  Through his charmingly raw lyrics and melody, we learned that:

… you can’t have one without the other.
…It’s an institute you can’t disparage.
…Ask the local gentry and they will say it’s elementary.

In America today, love is the most important and valid reason to get married, with 88% of American saying that love is very important for marriage. Here’s the problem. Ol’ Blue Eyes is wrong.  The concepts of love and marriage, have only really been entwined together in the last few hundred years; and, not just in America, but around the world.  Scientific and historical analyses show that love and marriage are actually quite disparate concepts throughout human history until relatively recent times. Continue reading Of Love and Marriage (But no Horse Carriage)

Forced Marriage: An Anti-Hindu, Anti-Choice Travesty

Valentine’s Day is in 9 days. Granted that the history of this day might have very little to do with love, people all over the world still take some time to celebrate love on this day. So, the idea of anyone being forced to get married on such a positive day is probably extremely upsetting, and rightfully so. Forced marriage is exactly what lies in store this year for many young couples in the state of Uttar Pradesh in India. This idea of forced marriage is bolstered by distorted, perverted sentiments of “religious truths” that are quite untrue and quite Anti-Hindu. The  surreal horror of this situation actually reflects the meticulously planned, systematic elimination of personal choice in people’s lives, using religious power and fear as effective weapons. In the end, this could happen anywhere, within any religion and any community, given the right conditions. That is exactly why it is imperative to know about and learn from this situation. Here is the back story: Continue reading Forced Marriage: An Anti-Hindu, Anti-Choice Travesty

Five Criteria for ALL Healthy Relationships

This coming Friday will be two years since I married the man who is perfect for me. So, quite predictably, I have been taking several trips down memory lane to see where I used to be, and where I am today, relative to my increased understanding of healthy relationships. Recently, I came across an old diary entry that I wrote about the kind of guy I want to marry. I won’t go into the details of the FOUR page long list! Suffice to say, I would still be unhappily unmarried, frustrated and depressed that I am not in a happy, healthy relationship with the man of my dreams!

I wrote that list in 2004. Through education, graduate life, research and experience, I thankfully learned about real healthy relationships. Life in a way helped me shed a rather naive, certainly ignorant view of life. I only wish I had learned the truths about healthy relationships long before 2004! Continue reading Five Criteria for ALL Healthy Relationships

Marriage: FIVE Questions to Prepare YOU for It.

Am I ready for Marriage? How do I know? How did all the people who got married figure it out?

Have you ever asked yourself these questions? Continue reading Marriage: FIVE Questions to Prepare YOU for It.

FOUR Characteristics of Game Changers

There is already a plethora of literature describing what it takes to be a game changer out there. Some of the literature even guarantees that every single one of us can become a game changer. All we have to do is put our minds and our wallets to good use, and follow a special, secret formula!

Is it really a secret?

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Silence: 5 Ways to Improve Relationships

Hello, again! Today, I would like to talk about how adding mindful, contemplative silence into our relationships can help us make our relationships and social interactions with our loved ones and even strangers much more fulfilling, genuine, and,  ultimately beneficial.

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Silence In Relationships

Hope you have enjoyed reading this multi-part blog post so far! If you are here for the first time, in The Power of Silence – An Introduction, I described what I meant by silence, and I introduced some benefits that practicing silence can add to our lives. In SilencING the Self: Religion and Spirituality, I talked about religious and spiritual evidence, which suggests that increasing silence in ourselves and in our lives will make us better people. Then, in my most recent post on the topic, Silence in the Self – Science and Health, I discussed the physical and mental health benefits of silence that could help us live more meaningful, healthy, fulfilling and satisfying lives. Today, we focus on Relationships.

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My Dad: Inspiring, hilarious and selfless!

Today, I want to introduce you to a very important person in my life. I would like to introduce him to you, so you can learn a bit about the amazing, hilarious (I get my awesome sense of humor from him!) yet extremely disciplined man who taught me, and continues to teach me, some of the most important and most memorable lessons of my life. I would like you to meet my dad, Mr. Ratnam. V. Jeedigunta.

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