In 1955, Frank Sinatra taught the American people and a broader international audience the idea that love and marriage cannot be thought of separately. Through his charmingly raw lyrics and melody, we learned that:
… you can’t have one without the other.
…It’s an institute you can’t disparage.
…Ask the local gentry and they will say it’s elementary.
In America today, love is the most important and valid reason to get married, with 88% of American saying that love is very important for marriage. Here’s the problem. Ol’ Blue Eyes is wrong. The concepts of love and marriage, have only really been entwined together in the last few hundred years; and, not just in America, but around the world. Scientific and historical analyses show that love and marriage are actually quite disparate concepts throughout human history until relatively recent times. Continue reading Of Love and Marriage (But no Horse Carriage)→
This coming Friday will be two years since I married the man who is perfect for me. So, quite predictably, I have been taking several trips down memory lane to see where I used to be, and where I am today, relative to my increased understanding of healthy relationships. Recently, I came across an old diary entry that I wrote about the kind of guy I want to marry. I won’t go into the details of the FOUR page long list! Suffice to say, I would still be unhappily unmarried, frustrated and depressed that I am not in a happy, healthy relationship with the man of my dreams!
I wrote that list in 2004. Through education, graduate life, research and experience, I thankfully learned about real healthy relationships. Life in a way helped me shed a rather naive, certainly ignorant view of life. I only wish I had learned the truths about healthy relationships long before 2004! Continue reading Five Criteria for ALL Healthy Relationships→
Hello, again! Today, I would like to talk about how adding mindful, contemplative silence into our relationships can help us make our relationships and social interactions with our loved ones and even strangers much more fulfilling, genuine, and, ultimately beneficial.
Hope you have enjoyed reading this multi-part blog post so far! If you are here for the first time, in The Power of Silence – An Introduction, I described what I meant by silence, and I introduced some benefits that practicing silence can add to our lives. In SilencING the Self: Religion and Spirituality, I talked about religious and spiritual evidence, which suggests that increasing silence in ourselves and in our lives will make us better people. Then, in my most recent post on the topic, Silence in the Self – Science and Health, I discussed the physical and mental health benefits of silence that could help us live more meaningful, healthy, fulfilling and satisfying lives. Today, we focus on Relationships.